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'Debbie Hayton is a thoughtful and insightful writer, who explores her own experience with sexuality and sexual identity in a way that can help illustrate some of the complexities of identity and desire. I really recommend her writing: she has a generous and wise voice' - Sophie Scott, Professor of Cognitive Neuroscience at UCL and author of The Brain: 10 Things You Should Know

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'Debbie Hayton provides a brave, unflinching, insightful account that challenges both the Left and Right, but no more than it challenges her own prior beliefs and decisions. This is required reading for anyone wanting to understand male gender dysphoria' - Michael Bailey, author of The Man Who Would be Queen

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'Debbie Hayton's book is a must for those wondering what is actually going on in the heads of middle aged men who suddenly announce that they are going to transition. Not only that, the description of institutional capture is an eyeopener. This book is required reading for anyone who wants to understand the madness that has gripped too many organisations, and many individuals. It offers a way through the confusion, placing compassion and our shared humanity front and centre' - Graham Linehan

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'Debbie has an important voice, having had a unique and important journey, a lived experience that is vital to listen to, to learn from and to acknowledge the facts, truths and genuine concerns and challenges gender ideology presents' - Sharron Davies, author of Unfair Play

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'Debbie Hayton's book offers a compelling warts and all description of what happens when a husband and father-of-three decides to transition. The power of an echo-chamber, the impact of the Internet, trans politics and the dislocation that can happen when a person builds a fantasy inside their head, are all powerfully depicted in this book' - Stella O'Malley, psychotherapist and author

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